I like to stir the pot. If someone holds a different opinion, questionable viewpoint or just something I've never heard before, I love to stir the pot up. Now, I don't mean that I simply like to cause chaos, or challenge someone solely because of a different opinion. What I mean is, I enjoy the tension in disagreement. I like hearing other people's viewpoints, conclusions, convictions, and how they got there. We live in a world with basically 8 billion people, every one of which a unique, diverse creation with just as much life experience as you. It's no wonder we humans have a hard time agreeing on everything.
I enjoy stirring the pot for another reason, and that's because it is an effective way of getting to the root of someone's conviction. For example, if someone were to tell me that they favor laws that permit a mother to abort an unwanted child, I would ask questions pertaining to the value of life, when it's OK to kill someone, how we define personhood, and what the basis for making any law is. A lot of times these questions may come off as accusations, but what they're really doing is bringing the discussion away from the surface and to the deeper end. Here's why:
My goal isn't to convince that person, in that moment, that abortion is wrong and sinful in the eyes of God. 99 out of 100 times that won't happen. My goal is to show that person that there is a possibility that they are holding convictions on a foundation that contradicts itself. For an excellent, respectful conversation, you can watch this video of a pastor engaging with pro-abortion protestors (be warned there is NSFW language).
When a person begins to see that their foundation might contradict itself, you are set up to share the Gospel. The Bible gives us a firm foundation. It gives us the meaning and value in life. It gives us objective morality and laws. It is, in my opinion, the only source of absolute objective truth. When we get rid of the Bible, laws become god. Just look at Nazi Germany, where it became legal to murder jews. In the Nuremburg Trials following World War 2, SS officers and Nazi soldiers argued that they should not be tried for murdering jewish people in death camps because it was legal in Germany. The law was their god, and in their eyes they had committed no sin.
So stir the pot, but be careful to do so in a way that honors Christ and the other person as well. If you leave winning the argument, but losing the relationship, you've lost. Just look at what God's word has to say about wasting your time in conversation!
But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. - Titus 3:9
We don't debate, argue or address other people for the sake of foolishness. The ultimate goal must always be to deliver the good news of Christ's forgiveness. The Christian should be making a direct path to the cross, not getting caught up in the small disagreements, what-about-isms, or rabbit holes. After all, it's the power of God and the Gospel that saves, not my well-versed defense of pro-life bullet points.
Lord, take captive my mind, my words, my actions and deeds. Lead me by Your Spirit, guiding me in my conversations and relationships. Reveal to me the people in my life and my day who need to hear the Good news of the cross, and give me the boldness and confidence to not only tell them the good news of Christ, but to also trust that it will be Your hand and Your work that ultimately softens their heart to be saved. Protect me from selfishness, and make me unsatisfied in every day that goes by that I do not champion the Gospel. Let it be so.